It could be the new rage this Halloween, or it can be an old trick. Either way you look at it, one thing is for sure. There are a lot of sizzling, sexy and dominate women dressed as a dominatrix this year. So what does dominatrix mean?
Dominatrix is a French word for mistress. It has a much darker connotation than a mere servitude, however. A dominatrix is someone who owns the whip and uses it to hurt, tease and force a woman to obey. She can be a real bad mother hen, but she is still a dominatrix.
How can a woman be dominated like that? Well some women take their role as a domina very seriously. They have studied how to be aggressive and hard-core in bed. Others wear their anger on their sleeves. They enjoy feeling their power over a man increasing, even when they are not having sex.
One of my friends used to brag about how she had been dominating me for so long that I finally gave in to her overtures. After all this was only after she became bored with sex with me, so she felt free to try out other men. This is a sad side effect of a relationship that is emotionally abusive. One who cannot say ‘no’ will always be dependent upon someone else, whether it is a boyfriend husband or another partner. In fact, she was so happy to be with one person that she would not have any qualms about hurting someone else in the name of satisfying her sexual desires.
So what does dominatrix mean, then? For many women, feeling like a dominatrix has a parallel in their everyday lives. For example, if you were a shopaholic who wore her pants half down your backside while shopping at the mall, would you feel empowered? The same can be said of a submissive woman in the bedroom who wants to walk around on top of her man while he is lying on his back.
The truth is that what does dominatrix mean, may not be the right question to ask. After all, women who want to wear a dominatrix costume do so because they identify with the image of a dominatrix. However, for some women who are uncomfortable with the idea of being in charge, it might be a good idea to ask them why they think it would be a good role-play experience. If the answer is positive, then a dominatrix costume might be just what the doctor ordered.