The question of why do women like BDSM is an interesting one. Women have always been drawn to the sensual and painful side of sexuality. They have always been uncomfortable with the ‘raunchy’ side of things and especially with ‘non-consensual’ (i.e forced) sex. However, in recent years BDSM has gained in popularity amongst women of all ages – perhaps as a reaction to more openly open discussions about gender and power.
Why do women like BDSM? It’s debatable but some blame the acceptance of BDSM among women as a result of the feminist movement. The advent of the third wave of feminism saw a strong push for women’s rights and this included their right to enjoy sexual activities without their consent. This is something that was anathema to the men’s rights activists of the past. Some argue that this is why women are attracted to domination and submission techniques. Others see it as a way of expressing a woman’s power and control in a relationship – and this is something that men have really got a problem with.
What is clear though is that there is certainly an element of enjoyment in BDSM for women – just as there is for men in the exchange of domination and submission. But the difference is that women tend to enjoy their partner’s pleasure, while men are attracted to the physical aspects of a relationship. Women also seem to enjoy their partner’s ability to control them and be in charge. The real key to making any relationship work in the long term is making sure that both people are happy with their relationship. Forcing one person into a position where they are unhappy can actually ruin what was already a great relationship.
What about the physiological benefits of BDSM? Firstly, this type of activity stimulates a whole host of parts of the body. From the g spot on a woman’s vagina, to breasts and clitoris; there are lots of nerve endings that will feel very good when stimulated. Some women find that taking part in a threesome with a number of men can give them a rush of adrenaline that helps to heighten their eroticism and make them much more attractive to their partners. For many women, especially those in their thirties and forties, this brings back memories of earlier times when sex without any physical contact could be just as satisfying as having sex with your partner. With women in their forties and fifties, it seems that they are less interested in the sex aspect of the relationship and more interested in being pampered and enjoying a steamy threesome.
Finally, many women find that going through BDSM as a lifestyle is very exciting and a way of bonding with your partner. There is a certain amount of power in being able to control your partner and be the one who ejaculates first. For many women, this translates as real intimacy – the real thing. It doesn’t matter whether or not you think it’s hot – if you feel that you can give a woman pleasure that no man has ever given her then chances are you are a sexual addict. For most women, the thrill of being able to please a man physically is much more satisfying than the satisfaction of him pleasing her sexually. This leads many women to have a fetish for men who take care of themselves.
Why do women like BDSM so much? If you want to explore new areas of your relationship, it might be time for you to experiment with a hot threesome with your lover. If you think you have what it takes to make a satisfying relationship, then why not go for it? There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your woman and who knows – you might find that you get along just fine!